One of my spiritual practices is to check for an instagram post from Mari Andrew each morning. A while back she posted this and it resonated with me in a big way:
At different times in my life people have called me strong or inspiring. And in those moments, those labels felt ill-fitting probably because, as Mari wrote, “This kind of immediate reaction to bad luck is patronizing at best, and doesn’t give room to feel disappointed, scared, or like a total mess.” And like Mari, I like being told I’m strong for other reasons–not the shit that happened TO me but the things I’ve had to work at! So I made my own list, inspired by Mari Andrew!
I am not strong because I endured a year of gut-wrenching (literally) surgeries.
I am strong because I climbed a mountain in snowshoes every year after that one, no matter how long it took me.
I am not brave because I experienced divorce.
I am brave because navigated Boston (and the rest of the U.S) with a paper atlas…in 2007…when GPS was pretty mainstream.
I am not resilient because my mom had depression while I was growing up.
I am resilient because I found some joy while sleeping in Walmart parking lots in a 91’ Camry for three months straight.
I am not inspiring because I’ve lived with cancer for 14 years.
I am inspiring because I found a way to speak the truth and think you can too!
I would love to read your list? Why are you strong, brave, resilient or inspiring? Hint: It has nothing to do with what’s gone wrong in your life. Namaste.