The Nuvaring Before I got married, I went to the student health center for a pre-marriage gynecology appointment. I was a student at Brigham Young University (BYU), 20 and a virgin. I didn’t think of myself as prude or naive, but I was probably both of those things. Raised in the conservative Mormon faith, I…
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Writing poetry about hard things is easy in a way. But, what about that whisper from inside that says good things are coming? The things you’ve waited for, even silently, as they seemed too big to speak? They are in motion. They are nearly here. All you must do is keeping going. Keep crossing that…
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Now that I better understand the feminine divine, I see that, because of her nature, she doesn’t fit easily into organized religion. She is too big and complicated for that. There are no instructions for breathing! How would you teach someone to inhale? Yet, I notice very quickly when I am becoming oxygen-deprived.
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Sometimes when I get quiet here it’s because I feel like I don’t know anything. Nothing. And that’s not completely true. So here’s a list of a few things I do know. I know if you are looking for sea glass on the beach, the best place to find it is in the patches of…
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Sometimes you get an email on a random Tuesday that’s really a box of venom and darkness. And it’s from someone you can’t block. So you write. Not back to them. But to yourself. Just because you disgust one person, doesn’t mean you are disgusting. You are light. You are fire. Burn, baby. Moving on.…
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I’ve been mulling it over and I’ve decided to take a slightly new direction in this space. You can still expect essays but I’m going to put a little more emphasis on poetry and art and creativity in general. And joy in the midst of life that’s always shifting and challenging and sometimes just shitty.…
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I talked to my dad twice yesterday because it was his 70th birthday, and I couldn’t be there to make him a chocolate sheet cake and spell out 7-0 with candles (because 70 candles would poke too many holes in that delicious frosting!) But that’s probably why I woke up this morning thinking about him.…
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Do I need to rethink my entire life?… Or is it just the holidays? I found myself texting this to a friend who casually asked me how it was going? Not good. Not good at all. I mean, there are good things happening. But I think I wandered into the holidays a little off kilter.…
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This Kauai trip, it’s been interesting. I had the extra burden of writing a book while I’ve been here. That has made the trip decidedly less zen than my typical solo retreat. Also mercury is in retrograde. The Verizon tower was down on the North side of the island for a couple of days, plus…
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I just finished listening to a Tara Brach podcast about contentment. And it brought me back to this question I’ve been asking myself for several years, How do I relax and enjoy my life? It’s an enigma, right? And I think it’s compounded by social media where it feels like everyone is doing just that.…
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