So now that you understand how ABSURD the amicable question is, let me offer some suggestions of what might be more helpful to someone who is facing or recently undergone divorce.
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Our Lady of Chains
In December, after hearing Cheryl Strayed speak at UCLA, I considered what might feel like prayer for me (See Walking is a Prayer). The piano came strongly into my consciousness. I took lessons from age 8-15. I have always felt that I should be MORE accomplished with the piano than I am so when I…
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Mary
It’s a striking contrast to leave the lively, bright Christmas Eve party and return to my quiet apartment with my sleeping child, unable to delay his slumber over the excitement of Santa Claus and presents. The quiet is dramatic, marked by the purr of the refrigerator and the click of expanding and contracting metal in…
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That is what Christ would do
A couple of weeks ago my sister came to visit. We watched a movie that we had both seen before, but I hadn’t seen it for years and I didn’t even really remember the plot. It’s a charming story that is a brilliant blend of the mundane with some time travel, the moral of which…
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Benediction
Remember that part at the end of National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation where Clark Griswold goes on a rant about his boss? That’s how I felt walking out of my divorce settlement conference tonight. It’s over. The papers are signed. The orders are written. It’s over. Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where’s the Tylenol? I wrote this last…
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Stop worrying about the knitting and remember to dance
These past couple of days I have been sensing a weird transition in myself. It’s like I’m crossing a threshold into a new phase…and it feels good. Strangely good. This Cheryl Strayed quote comes to my mind often: “Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or…
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Day 4: A wound that is in the process of healing
The night before I traveled to Bethesda, I went to see my acupuncturist. She is an incredible, Scottish woman with multiple sclerosis. Incidentally she is also a talented painter and has a wonderful mind. I asked her for a last-minute appointment because when I woke up that day, the left side of my neck was…
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I am willing
I’ve done a lot of journaling today exploring my prompt: What is it like to be me in the world today? Honestly, it’s kind of a mess. I just got over the 24-hour stomach flu. It was wicked. I could hardly get out of bed yesterday except to throw up. I had R most of…
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